22/08/14

A negative mind will never give you a positive life.

This is somehow a very personal post that I feel ashamed to be posting. I’m going to write it, post it, and never doubt it. 

Guru Candice speaking…

For more than a third-quarter of my life I was a pessimistic human being : I was always thinking everything will turn out badly, and that I didn’t deserve to be happy.

Somehow, along the way, I changed. I became more and more optimist,  now I am trying to always see the glass half-full.

I’ve been working on being more positive, therefore less negative.

When you’re negative, you attract negative people and negative events. So why will it not work for positivity ? If I think more positively, positive events will happen in my life.

One of my first steps have been to stop (for the most part) complaining. I am not saying I don’t complain anymore, this is not true because well … complaining sometimes can be relieving, but I don’t do it as much as I did before.

If my train gets delayed, I won’t tweet about it. I’ll turn my energy into finding something good to do while waiting : start a new book; take time to write in my notebook some reviews for The Beautiful Stillness or even go for a walk.

It considerably changed  my moods, I will not have this anger inside me still burning. I killed it before it had the chance to grow.

I don’t talk about the “hate” I feel for books, films, or even people on the internet.  It’s much more interesting to listen to people talking about things they love instead of things they despise, don’t you think ? I always feel in awe when someone I know talk to me about some exciting project, and when someone start whining about something trivial for an hour … well… it doesn’t have the same effect at all. It’s ok to don’t like things, we can’t love everything, but it’s negative to only talk about things you don’t like.

I want more people sharing about things they love, things that make them happy. It inspires me and make me feel happy!

If you are having a hard time, I am going to give you a little trick that works perfectly for me : make a list of things that make you happy or things you are grateful for, and when you’re sad, read the list, do one of the things. It will make you feel better, I promise.

Well, that’s it for today. Now I’m going to hide in a corner and watch you respond to this…

06/07/14

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I am a dreamer and it’s common knowledge that I always have been.

I can perfectly remember day-dreaming in school about my future life with books everywhere in my house and creating things for a living – apparently I have not changed a bit because I still dream about it.

Dreams helped me settle goals – I dreamt of being a paid creative : I’m being paid for being creative everyday.

I dreamt of taking lettering classes, I made it happen – I’m happy I took the time to do so.

Dreaming is desiring something good (or even better) for yourself. It’s allowing you to be more positive. 

Having dreams motivates you to dare to go beyond yourself to get what you want. What’s wrong with that ? Yes, exactly :  nothing.

You tried but failed ? Get up. Try again. Don’t be afraid of failure, it will stand in your way and make your life much harder. Embrace your fear. Widen your vision. Failure make you progress. As an old poster which is going around on Pinterest says : Strive for progress, not perfection. It’s one of my life motto.

If people do say that your dream is unrealistic, just prove them wrong. You’re strong and you will get what you want. Ask them what are their dreams. Maybe they don’t have one because they are scared.

Don’t be afraid of having big dreams and ambition. You should never be ashamed of your ambitions. I can’t believe it’s a bad thing in 2014 when someone has ambition and people are saying ‘this person is bossy’ only because she DARED to settle for something bigger than others.

Dream big, accomplish something you’ve wanted to try for years. Start with a small thing, and then dream bigger. It’ll make you feel good and I’m sure your loved ones will be proud. I know mine are proud of me, and you know what? I’m pretty proud of myself.

10/05/14
Filed under : My Daily Life, Photography

If you follow me on Instagram, you know that I’ve been posting a picture every single day with the hashtag #100happydays.

We live in times when super-busy schedules have become something to boast about. While the speed of life increases, there is less and less time to enjoy the moment that you are in. The ability to appreciate the moment, the environment and yourself in it, isthe base for the bridge towards long term happiness of any human being.

Basically, everyday you’ll have to post a picture of what made you happy that said day, you can post it on facebook, twitter, instagram, pinterest or tumblr.
I have started this a few weeks ago, and it has made me appreciate little tidbits of my life even more.
A couple of years ago I tried to do (two years in a row – I failed both times) the 365 projects with my DSLR camera. It was actually really painful because I was focusing too much on taking a picture of something original and pretty, and the picture didn’t reflect on my day. I was doing it the wrong way.

With this #100HappyDays project it’s completely different, I always found something good about my day so I have to take a picture of it.
I don’t say that my life is amazing & gorgeous; it’s pretty boring when you come to think of it : I am 5 days a week at the office, but even though, I always have tidbits that are brighter than others.

I love being able to look back at my days thinking « Yes – in that moment I was very happy », even though I had a dreadful day, but thanks to that photo I know that I was happy, even for a short time.

Learn more on the project on the official website. 

Are you taking the challenge ? Does it interest you ?

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